There is a proverb in Javanese, "Mengalah untuk Menang". It means "Giving up to win". Sometimes you don't have to win everything if in the end, it will make you a looser. To leap forward, you have to move backward so you could jump very far.
You don't have to win an argument with your wife if it means you will loose her. Though you "win", you are a looser. It's better you "loose", but you can be with her for the rest of your life.
