There is a proverb in Javanese, "Mengalah untuk Menang". It means "Giving up to win". Sometimes you don't have to win everything if in the end, it will make you a looser. To leap forward, you have to move backward so you could jump very far.
You don't have to win an argument with your wife if it means you will loose her. Though you "win", you are a looser. It's better you "loose", but you can be with her for the rest of your life.
Sometimes you have to argue. But look at the condition. Is your opponent want your feedback? Is it necessary? Can you give a suggestion in a very good way? Not hurting the other side?
If winning an argument make you loose a family, a friend, or a future in your workplace, don't do that.
If winning an argument make you loose a family, a friend, or a future in your workplace, don't do that.
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